May The Power Be With YOU
Where is your personal power right now?
How are you feeling?
How you are feeling is the answer to the question really!
An extended version of the question would be:
How do you feel when you are by yourself?
Here is a quote by Neale Donald Walsch that I love:
‘..no man is hurt but by himself.
Diogenes said that, and he was right. Every person’s
experience is created internally, by him or herself. No
one outside of you can tell you what anything means,
or whether you are “hurt” or not.
If you feel hurt by something or someone, it is the result
of your decision to feel that way. This may be tough to
hear, but it is true. You can change your mind at any
moment about how something is affecting you.’
If you are feeling happy, joyful, loving, loved, strong, supported, secure, peace, wellness…then you are holding your energy in your own empowered state.
If you require or need others to bring these feelings up in you, then they have the power.
In this situation it is not so bad, as feeling happy vibes if a great thing! But imagine feeling that way without the influence of others? Imagine how you would feel if you were in this space, AND THEN had MORE of these feelings, or enhanced good feelings with the people around you!
You can…and it’s your decision.
Here is the other side of the equation, and what I want to focus on today.
What if, you are feeling powerless?
What if, you are constantly feeling hurt, shamed, sad, unwell, stupid, insecure, stressed, depressed, weak, less than, unworthy and all these types of feelings? The ones that bring you down, not leave you in your natural state of wholeness?
And if this is you…are you pretending to be strong to please others?
In my personal experience, I did spend most of my life allowing others to have the power over how I was feeling. It was totally my choice to do that, although at the time I didnt know.
The blame towards others was eating away at me. I was in search of this allusive thing (or so I thought at the time that it was allusive!) called ‘happiness’ and every time I felt I was just about there, or was there…bam! The boyfriend would leave, the parent would be infuriating, the blocks would increase, the husband would push another button, the friend would let me down, the business did not flow, the abundance stopped, the finances were a struggle, etc , etc , etc.
Oh! So many things, so many people that I could blame, that I could have as an excuse for not being happy!
Its only been in the past few years that I have realized and learned/remembered that the way I feel is ALWAYS my choice. That the power of my emotions, my reactions, my energy, my feelings and my demeanor is totally my choice.
Whether I feel happy or not…is up to me! How I react to everything and every person around me is my choice too!
Regaining our own power is so liberating and when we get to this point, the only thing we want to do is enable others to do the same.
Seeing people that are not standing in their power gives me more determination and resolves to write more articles like this one to get the message out there. Sometimes it takes a whole lot of messages, written in different ways, written by different people, over short periods of time or long periods of time, to reach the hearts of the people who need it.
How can we reach this place of empowerment within ourselves?
Here are 10 things you can do today to feel stronger:
1. Stop the blame
If you want to make changes to how you feel, you MUST make changes to how you think and behave. When you find yourself blaming either a circumstance or a person for how you are feeling…stop! Take back your power and say to yourself- how do I CHOOSE to react to this? How do I CHOOSE to feel about this?
2. Check in with yourself as often as possible
Monitor your thoughts carefully. If the feelings you are experiencing are not the ones you’d like, examine your current thoughts. Are you in charge of your own self?
3. Stand tall and breathe deeply
Standing tall not only helps us feel more empowered and confident, but it allows our Solar Plexus Chakra to expand and flow far more easily. This is where we hold our confidence, personal power and presence.
4. Take notes, in your journal or diary, of the times and situations you feel less than empowered
What is it about these moments that have you unable to choose how you feel? Are you stuck in one area, or many?
5. Take notes in your journal or diary of the times when you feel extraordinarily happy and at ease with life
These are the feelings you want to be able to tap into when you choose, or when you want to react from a different place…a place of empowerment.
6. If your heart is breaking/feeling broken over a person, situation or the like, stop, breathe
Its okay to feel hurt. Its ok to cry. Its ok to be heart broken. You CAN however, choose to NOT stay in that feeling or darkness for too long. You CAN choose to think different thoughts. You CAN choose to be grateful, thankful and filled with Love for the time you had with this person or with the situation. You CAN send Love. You CAN find the things in your life that are STILL amazing and wonderful to celebrate. You CAN be empowered. If you find that this is not possible, please seek mentoring or assistance that will help you find the root cause and clear the blocks. Also – see point 10
7. Make more choices
Like anything, choice making takes practice. To build your ‘muscle’ give yourself a goal of at least 2 empowered choices every day. They will be conscious at first and possibly challenging but after a while they will be unconscious decisions. They will be part of the way you are. They will be YOU taking empowered steps without a thought.
8. Do some healing work on your lower Chakras
Meditations for the Root, Sacral and Solar Plexus Chakras will strengthen your confidence and stabilize your emotions/emotional response to situations and people. (Check out the free meditations I have created for you here: MEDITATIONS
9. Turn off the news
Have a total media blackout for at least one week. You may find that after this time, even this small period of time, that your energy will be calmer and you really don’t need that negative influence in your life. It will make a big difference to how you feel, act and think- just through turning off the mainstream media and instead, tuning in to your own guidance/feelings/thoughts.
10. Remember this:
Before we even arrived here as this human, living this life, we knew the growth and expansion we wanted as spirit and we also knew that it would take challenges for us to truly step up, to truly shake off ego, to truly remember who we are here. So each time we are challenged by a situation, by a person, by a thought or feeling, it is wise to remember that this ‘unease’ was manifested by us on some level and that if we can simply see it as the block we step up on, not the block that holds us back, then we can once again be in ease, Grace and flow.
The best question we can all ask, in any situation, is:
How do I choose to feel about this, what can I learn and how can I grow?
Our empowered state is a choice. We are all capable of being in this state and in fact- it is our natural state. Blame will only keep us in a victim state.
What are you choosing right now?