How Your EMPATH Story Is Secretly Controlling Your Life

There is this group on social media. Im sure there are thousands or more of them but there is one in particular I am aware of at this current moment.

Its a group for, and about, Empaths.

Nothing wrong with that right?

No, not at all. But there is something quite interesting that happens there that I wish to address in this blog.


Yes, some empaths seem to be fighting control constantly don’t they? In particular the control of narcissists.

This story is only a story though and I feel for many people who are having these ‘labels’ affect them so much, it turns into more of a victim story or a control story AND it is controlling their lives.


Lets start at the beginning.

What IS an Empath?

Well, the dictionary says:




(chiefly in science fiction) a person with the paranormal ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual.


What does it mean to BE an empath?

Empaths are highly sensitive and perceptive individuals, who have a keen ability and skill to sense what people around them are thinking and feeling.

Empath also describes a person that experiences a great deal of empathy, often to the point of taking on the pain of others at their own expense.


I believe we are all capable of feeling to this extent. Sensing others, sensing the etheric, sensing pain in others, sensing emotions in others. I believe we are ALL intuitive and can ‘tune in’ to other energy whether that be within another person or around them.

Not everyone taps into this ability however and that is ok. It’s all part of our evolution and our Remembering of who we are in each life we choose to come back and experience.

I know many sensitives and people who label themselves as Empaths and they function quite well. I am one of them.

So, I find it fascinating that the same label of ‘empath’ can take people to the edge in their ‘battles’ with narcissists, relationships, work, life in general.

They use the label to make it ok to be under the control of the external and then be the victim in it.

There are many others who do this too, without the empathy label. Their lives are controlled by the external environment, old emotional memories and the people around them.


But here’s the thing- you do NOT attract a controlling person into your life (ie a Narcissist) because you are an empath. You attract control when you need to learn control. You attract control when you are a victim. You attract control when you expect the external (ie another person) to create happiness for you and look after you.


So, rather than the old cry (which is getting a bit boring actually) of ‘Poor me, I attracted a Narcissist because Im an Empath’ and keeping yourself in that story- why not look inwardly and ask yourself- where am I not in control of my own power?

Of course if you want to stay a victim that is your choice but don’t blame it on the Empath label you have given yourself to make it ok.

I guess what I am saying here is that for many people, the actual label they have given themselves of ‘empath’, is a label that says ‘I have no control over me or my life.’ And this is actually controlling their lives, not the people who show up or the circumstances that appear.

So, whether you are an Empath, a Sensitive, a highly intuitive soul or any other highly energetically geared person, if you are attracting control it is a prompt for you to go inwards and find the empowerment within and to begin to understand that YOU HAVE CONTROL over how you feel about your reality in every moment.

And with empowerment, you will never attract a controlling person (ps there is also a difference between someone who has such big fears that they need to keep control around them and a narcissist, although they seem to get labelled the same). The energies do not match.


My wish and intent is empowerment.

Changing our perceptions and stories can, and does, change our reality.


Its all a story, this life of ours.

You can choose how it reads.

Love and Blessings

Trish xo


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