The excitement builds, the adrenalin starts running through the body, the next step is finally here, you have worked so hard to get here and it’s about to begin!
Then the adrenalin rush turns from excitement to fear and you don’t know whether to run or fight it…
Have you been in this battle with yourself? I certainly have and after a while its gets exhausting!
Sometimes the fears are small and we can easily jump the hurdle to the next step. Sometimes they are bigger and we seek advice or a gentle hand on our back from spirit or a mentor to know that we are supported. But there are some fears that we don’t even know we have and they come to life in situations where we are taking a quantum step forward or a bigger step into the unknown.
These can really keep us stuck, frustrated and wondering if we are ever going to reach our vision.
This has been the case for me in the last little while the past and I got to the point where I either overcame, or dissolved, these fears or I stayed in the status quo of my life as it was.
I’m NOT a status quo person! (except for the band of course! They are cool!)
Im also guessing that of you are reading this, you are not this person either and are looking for ways to move more easily to the next step, towards the opportunity that may have just presented itself and to the next chapter in reaching your vision.
With the current happenings on this planet now more than ever Lightworkers, healers and people who are high vibe and awake need to take these steps forward without the fear.
Whether it be your personal life or business adventures, letting go of what is keeping us stuck IS the next step for the freedom we seek.
Here are 3 ways I have found to truly help step forward- despite the fear- and leap out of the status quo, onto the next exciting path of discovery in life.
The very first thing that I would recommend to you is to acknowledge you are stuck. Fighting it will only keep the resistance to it alive.
This was a little confronting for me in the beginning and my clients feel that way too in some cases but to actually have the block, the fear, the hurdle, the emotion or the paralyzing thought right there in front of you, on paper, truly helps it fade into ‘non importance’.
‘Non existence’ is also a possibility to however if it does hang around for a little while, as many big patterns and beliefs do, the stepping into the fear of it each time keeps you running in circles. So the ‘non importance’ of it will help with your emotional reactions and assist movement forward.
How do we know what this fear is so that we can acknowledge it?
Start writing, or talking with a mentor or to yourself/spirit.
What is the block?
Let the words or thoughts flow.
The answer may look something like:
What if I fail? What if it doesn’t work? What if I get judged? Criticized? What if it does work and I lose friends on the next step up? What if Im stepping into something here I don’t know enough about? What if I do all this work and then I discover its the wrong path for me?
So many ‘what if’s’ can come up around what is blocking you.
Behind all of the what if’s, is an underlying fear of not being good enough, not being valuable enough, not being worthy enough and not being loveable enough.
Even when we do a lot of inner work on ourselves and are feeling quite secure with our worth, value and loveability, the ego will still throw these things up at us when it is losing its grip of fear.
We also have very deep beliefs and patterns in our DNA and Akash that will surface so its important to acknowledge what it is we are actually fearing as it may not be from this lifetime.
After you write out all of the questions and ‘what ifs’s’ then take a look at the list and BE OK that these have all come up. Don’t be stuck in them any longer. BE OK with the enquiry.
The resistance will drop and you will feel instant relief in many cases!
Then, its time to ask yourself- Is this really true?
- Is it true?
I love the work of Byron Katie and the enquiry process she uses to uncover and dispel our mind chatter and fears!
The question I ask myself most is: Is it true?
With any of the fears listed above, are they true?
- I will fail…Is that really true?
- I will lose friends… Is that really true?
- I am not good enough…Is that really true?
After you have done your free writing or talking with all of the fears that are keeping you stuck from the next step, ask yourself are they true? It’s a beautiful and profound form of enquiry that will allow you to let go of many of the beliefs and a lot of the fear based mind chatter.
Recognising and acknowledging what statements you are making in relation to moving forward is a really vital step too and you can do the enquiry work on this also.
- I am angry…is that really true?
- I am scared…is that really true?
- I am stuck…is THAT really true?
I would highly recommend going deeper into the enquiry process at Byron Katies’ website (http://thework.com/en) but even with these very simple ways of acknowledging and questioning your blocks, you will be more at peace and able to take the next step, knowing full well you haven’t extinguished the fear, but you have emotionally detached from it and it is not holding you stuck.
The next step is a fabulous one that I love asking my clients and myself!
- Who would I be?
For many of us, we are so stuck in the story that has persisted for a long time that we truly cannot see any other way of Being.
So when we try to change things, nothing seems to work and we constantly sabotage ourselves, consciously and sub consciously!
Whether you are changing your career, your health, a relationship, your business, a job or the way you currently look and feel, if you have not been any other way, ever or for a long time, the unknown can subconsciously sabotage our every attempt.
A good example of this is someone who came and listened to me speak at an Expo. She was telling me about her battle with depression and all the other weight related and health related issues that are plaguing her. She wasn’t falling into victim mode, in fact she was actively doing all she could to change the way she was living her life and showing up!
When I suggested, in my presentation, that asking the question: Who would I be without this? would assist in moving to the unknown and that the fear of not understanding exactly who you would be in the new situation would dissipate, she had this huge shift of energy, as if she had finally found the key to her new life- without the weight, the illness, the depression.
Why is it so powerful? Because by visioning who we can be outside of the fear, the present, the issues and the current reality, we can flow into the next step and BE that.
You see, the fear we have now, that is keeping us stuck, will not be an issue once we move past it. So if you can move past it now, then you will be more likely and will far more easily, become that which you imagine.
This is the work I do with clients and what brings me the most passion. Changing a story or a perception that has been holding someone stuck for so long and giving them freedom from it is life changing!
Use these empowerment tips within the next few days. No more procrastinating ok? If nothing else, you will be moving forward!
Trish Rock | Transformation Catalyst | Psychic/Clairvoyant
~~One of the 8 Female CHANGEMAKERS for 2020 as named in YMag ~~
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